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Experiencing a Life Without Desires

“An experience that fails to evoke the desire to relive it is a true experience.” – Jai Arora.

I want to experience everything that life has to offer. This notion invites us to consider the depth and significance of our experiences. Every split second of your life has provided you with an experience. But is this only about experiencing an experience? Every time you hear what experience teaches, you will never learn by acquiring knowledge. Even if you read a holy scripture or listen to insightful words of wisdom from a sage or an intellectual person, those revered words are only words. Our expectations, our preconceived notions about what an experience should be, often prevent us from truly experiencing the moment. 

When you live your own life, you get a genuine experience. Nobody taught you an experience. Your education and training only provide you with the knowledge you use as a reference. An experience lets your character develop in a way you have never determined. It’s not always about gaining something from an experience; sometimes, the absence of specific experiences allows you to grow. 

It has often happened that you have experienced something and are longing to recreate that initial thrill. But why would you want to repeat an experience you’ve already had? Why would anyone want to repeat an experience which one has experienced? Would you have yet to experience that experience thoroughly? – it was indeed. What is lacking is your unfulfilled mind, which wishes for it again. 

If you want to keep suffering, you will repeat every experience, as you believe it will provide you with happiness, which is your expected outcome. You continue suffering after an experience if you actively pursue it again in the same way, like expecting another wave to emerge in the ocean after the previous one disappears in the sea.

However, you will find pure joy if you can truly immerse yourself in the present moment without the desire to relive it. In this state of complete presence, you can make an experience blissful. It’s not about the past or the future but fully embracing the now. 

Once you’ve truly lived an experience, you understand its value. It’s from these genuine experiences that wisdom is born. This wisdom‌ empowers you to discern your choices and desires, helping you distinguish between what you want and truly need. In this understanding, you find genuine joy, not in pursuing what you want but in accepting what is. You get a joyful experience when you don’t see what you want. So, never fail to experience, but keep it desireless.

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